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Why So Desperate Ladies?


Okay ladies-it is not 1960 anymore, why are you so desperate to get married? I don't and never will understand this mentality.

(What's wrong with this picture? Do either of them look happy?)

Honestly, what is it about getting married that still has women wanting it with more passion than actually finding someone they actually love?

There are tons of films, 'Bridget Jone's', 'Sex & The City', 'Must Love Dogs' to name a few, that all center females 'desperate' to be married, or re married. Did I miss something and we are back in 1960 and we need a man? It is ridiculous.

There are match making services where woman sign up in hopes of finding that certain someone to get to the alter. UGH.

There is always some woman giving advice on how to keep a man, get a man, marry a man-seriously? Did you not wake up and realize we are living in 2010?

I am not against marriage, or the concept of spending the rest of your life with someone you love, starting a family, etc, but I don't understand where the obsession comes, and yes it has become an obsession.

My clock has never ticked and I have never wanted to settle. By settle I don't mean, not want to settle down, I mean 'settle' for someone I don't love just for a ring.

A few years ago I mentioned to a friend of mine that I had been engaged and she looked at me horrified, "then why aren't you married?" I explained that I never wanted to marry any of these men, but wasn't ready to break up-and before you judge me, men do this all the time, I wasn't hurting them-and she said, "but you could have been married."

Another gal I met in the midwest was so upset for me that I wasn't married that I actually lied to her and said, "look I just don't like talking about it, but I was married and my husband and two kids died in a car accident." (totally lying to show her absurdity) and she said, "Oh thank God, at least you were married!" So to this woman it would be better to have lost my husband and children in a car accident than be single over the age of 30! That is seriously messed up.

I just don't understand it and maybe that is why I am single, but I don't ever want to marry someone I don't love just to be married and no one out there should, ever, especially now. It is 2010, not 1960!

Wake up ladies. Men are great. I love them, but we don't need to be married to define who we are and your desperation is making the rest of us look bad.

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