Sunday, November 11, 2012

Ignoring Ryan Gosling

I didn't spend on one of my credit cards for almost a year, the raised my limit by $1000, Bay area FasTrak gives me like $5/mo to come back to SF, Netflix just gave me two free months because I canceled in June-I wonder if I ignore Ryan Gosling more often it will have the same effect.

I have been ignoring him, Jake Gyllenhaal, Colin Farrell, etc.. for years now-come on boys! ;p

I mean, seems like the more you ignore something, the more it comes to you...right? Is all of life like a bad boyfriend? I gave up TV writing last summer to work on my YA book series, and BOOM! TV writing job falls in my lap. I give up looking for work and jobs come out of the wood work. It's really interesting how things like this happen.

I swear I am now getting credit increases left, right and center because I am not spending-shouldn't it be the other way around? I mean the reason I am not using your credit card is one of two reasons, 1) I can't afford it and 2) (The more likely reason) there is nothing in your store that I want to buy-get some new inventory and thanks for the bump.

So do I dare try this theory out on men, say Ryan Gosling-I only use him because I just met him 2x at Starbucks-maybe he is stalking me!! Hahahaha totally kidding, but you get the point.

I can't do this though when it comes to real life, if I like someone enough to take away from my busy schedule it's because I like them, I can't play the game, even though I know it seems to work-for everything. That said, if I take time to talk to someone it's because I like them, if I am ignoring someone it's because I don't want to talk to them-but this whole phenomenon is of course just interesting to me.

So what else do I want in life? Hrm???

This reminds me of that line from French Kiss.
"Happy-smile. Sad-frown. Use the corresponding face for the corresponding emotion."

But it seems the more you turn away from something the more it wants you.

Just sayin'.....

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Presidential Election CLASS-Have We None?

Whatever happened to fair dealingAnd pure ethicsAnd nice manners?Why is it everyone now is a pain in the Ass?Whatever happened to class?Class.Whatever happened to Please may IAnd Yes thank youAnd How charming?Now every son of a bitchIs a snake in the grassWhatever happened to class?
~ Chicago the musical.
Okay folks, so earlier this morning I was 100% convinced that Obama was going to win and I ignored the internet, but then people starting talking about it and I looked and was beyond shocked that Mitt was winning-What the F? Seriously? How could this be happening, my life was flashing before my eyes as the worse thing in history was about to happen? A tad dramatic? Yeah, a bit, but I am a writer. 
That said, I was worried, but I had a talk with someone who actually is smart and has a brain and isn't a jerk and this person actually made me see that it would be okay, the world would go on and to be fair, my life probably wouldn't change that much. This person was right and I knew it, but I was still nervous, so nervous that I didn't even tune into the election until a friend on FB said OBAMA won. Now I am beyond happy, it was like the minute I let go, things went my way.
Well folks, 50% of the country isn't happy and they are worried. That's not good. These are our people and it's not right to shove this in their faces because it could have easily been us. This person who I spoke to today said, "that's how the other side felt last time." When I said, "I'm so worried if Mitt wins." Very smart and 100% correct. 
So while I am so excited, I don't think it's right to be mean and nasty to the Republicans who lost tonight because they aren't happy and it's never right to rub someone's nose in it. How about instead about being awful, you say, "It's going to be okay because...." and show them why you cast your vote today? Just a thought. Yes Mitt hasn't conceded, so what? I mean, he lost, it is what it is and he lost, so by making your right friends feel bad is helping how, exactly?
It's not. Show our president that you respect him by not sinking to anyone's level and be the person you want him to be and have some class-for fuck sake! (Couldn't resist that last bit-you get the joke right? Haha)

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Seriously! RIP A Fellow Writer

I woke up today ready to dive into a new chapter of the year falling back into the proper standard time Starbucks in hand and then WHAM! I log into FB and see that my friend Laurie has died. ALL day I have been in a state of shock, anger, WHAT THE FUCK?, sadness, grief, disbelief and then all over. What happened? Why? Why? I want to know why? How did this happen? She died from Cervical cancer. WHAT? In 2012? WHAT? How? Laurie!!!!!!! Didn't you get check ups? How could this happen? I didn't talk to her every day, but we were good friends and we did talk a lot about writing. We met in 2009 at the Santa Monica Write On Online group and became instant friends. She was great, full of life, and I am just so upset about this. I know her closer friends and family are even more devastated than I am, but it's just so awful. My father died in June, so I have been terrible about keeping up with everyone on FB, but I remember her posting something about her stomach not feeling right this summer, is that how she found out? I don't understand. Sucks being healthy and watching so many people die and excuse me, I am not even old yet. Is life supposed to be like this? So what do I do? Never become close to anyone so I don't have to be smashed down when they die? Of course not,  but seriously? I have lost several friends in the past few years, and lots of family, and I just feel like I can't take anymore loss-it's so hard to say goodbye. That said, this isn't about me, it's about Laurie and I am so saddened, and in shock. I hope that she knows how loved she was and I hope that her family knows how loved she was and I hope she is happy wherever she is. Rest in peace my dear friend.

Thursday, November 1, 2012

The Little Brain

You have heard the expression-thinking with your dick-right? Not just for men anymore. Us women definitely let the "little" brain take over. There isn't a good way to say it for women, and it's the same thing. I am going to try to never let this happen again-yeah right, right? Right. Okay, so you meet someone and you are attracted to them-that is human nature and what if the Mayans were right? Who I am to deny myself a basic human right just because the wrong brain is leading me? Okay because it always causes trouble? And can make a mess of things? Yeah can other things that aren't as much fun. Just saying, my little brain is sometimes wiser than my big one!

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Suicide: It's Not Your Fault

A couple months ago I lost a new friend to suicide and then there have been a few "industry" (the entertainment industry) losses, I thought I would write this today so people can have some hope of understanding.
Suicide is the hardest thing for loved ones left behind to grasp because they always feel like they could have done something and the thing is, you couldn't have. The suicidal person is NOT thinking about you, or anyone else, they are thinking about themselves, period. I hate when people say, "suicide is selfish" like that's a bad thing. Of course it's selfish-this person is having the WORST day of their life so they don't care about anything but stopping the pain they are in. Ever get a headache or break a bone and think, "I wish I would just die the pain is so bad," ? Yes you have, we all have, but we don't mean it because we know it's temporary. The suicidal person's pain is temporary, but to them, it's constant and there is only one way out. I don't know how to make this clear because the pain of losing the person you just lost clouds any reasonable judgement, but I am telling you, if someone you love has committed suicide, they felt they had no way out. That's the truth. When you are in that place-the suicide place-you do NOT care who loves you, because it doesn't matter, you don't care about how much money you have, or fame, or success, or any of that material stuff, you want the pain to stop. That is the reason. The pain has become unbearable and suicide is a way for it to end. Yes there are many suicides that are from mental illness, and that's different, but for many it's a way to stop the pain. Suicidal people often don't want to die, they just don't want to live in the pain that is constant anymore, so they end it. Don't waste your time being angry with them, and don't waste your time feeling like you could have done something because you couldn't have.
Have I been clear enough? It's a pain that no one will ever understand unless they have been there. When you decide to take your own life it's because of the pain that you are in and you can't find a way to stop it, except for death. No one knows what happens when we die, so the bullshit of suicides go to hell-well they were already in hell, hence why they did it.
Personally I believe that it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and there is always something to live for, but it's being able to see that when the pain takes over. A few years ago a friend of mine's sister ended it, and this friend and her friends kept saying, "but she was so loved." I tried to explain that it didn't matter, and it was the only way out. Now is there anything you can do to prevent someone from killing themselves? Sure, there are lots of resources out there to get information, and the biggest thing is seeing the warning signs. I grabbed this from

*Talking about wanting to die or kill themselves.
*Looking for way to do it.
*Talking about feeling hopeless, or having no reason to live.
*Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
*Talking about being a burden to others.
*Increase use of alcohol or drugs.
*Being reckless.
*Sleeping too much or too little.
*Isolating themselves.
*Showing rage or seeking revenge.
*Extreme mood swings.

Get the person some help if you can. I often hear people say, "If I had only been there with them..." well you can't be with someone 24 hours a day because you are afraid they are going to off themselves. If you think there is immediate danger, I wouldn't leave them, but unless you are a trained professional, you may be setting yourself up for failure.

I guess I am writing this because I just want you to know, it's not your fault. It's sad, but it's not your fault. You have to forgive yourself and get past those feelings of guilt.

*The photo is from a day when I was in SF walking on the Golden Gate Bridge and I took this photo because I was writing a letter to the city of San Francisco about raising the barrier/railing and I saw her and thought, "what a great shot to show how short the railing is." Then I saw it, she was about to jump. I went up and asked her if she was okay, she lied. I knew she was lying, but I didn't want to make it worse, so I just asked if she was sure and was there anything I could do. She thanked me. I walked alway. I called 911, but they didn't come in time and while I didn't see her go over, she had been watching me as I walked away and I didn't want me watching her to make her jump, so I looked away for a minute and the next thing I knew tourists were looking over the side and she was gone. I beat myself up for a long time about not being able to stop it.

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Rest in Peace Alan Kirschenbaum

Today in Hollywood the comedy stopped
as well learned of the sad news that funny man Alan Kirschenbaum had taken his life. On the outside, and IMDB everything looked great, but obviously something was terribly wrong. I didn't know him. I always wanted to work with him or at the very least take one of his classes. I followed him on Twitter out of respect and he was funny. 
People often seem fine on the outside when they are really tragically sad on the inside. Suicide is something that is so hard for people to understand, but you have to know that it's never your fault. Except I think in the case of my uncle Ricky, who when he was sixteen-long before I was born, took his own life but wrote my Dickens-esq grandfather telling him that it was his fault-in that case yes, it was maybe. But really at the end of the day it's the person who decides to do it. Ultimately no one can change someone's mind when they are in that dark place.
It breaks my heart that three people in Hollywood all took their lives recently and I just wonder what was so bad that they didn't see that they had another way. 
Rest in peace Mr. Kirschenbaum your spirit will stay with those of us forever and I hope that things are better on the other side.

If you are in that place, and I know it's bad, really bad, please get help.
1 (800) 273 TALK

Sunday, October 21, 2012

Batman, Superman or Spiderman?

Geek out Sunday....

Who do like for characters, not the comic or the films, the characters? Batman, Superman or Spiderman and why? Just curious-for me it's Spiderman for many reasons, the biggest reason is that he has to deal with real life shit and is a true geek. While I love Superman-he is perfect, so it's like, "eh" okay whatever you can fly really fast and you're super strong-we get it. Spiderman had more problems besides the daily crap in real life, he also had problems on the side-you know fighting evil. I have received a lot of comments on my YA book RYUAN like, "it's obvious you like Superman." Well the book is about an alien who was sent to earth-but not to save himself to save his own planet's people when he grows up. BUT, he isn't perfect and his abilities are more realistic and he has to deal with a ton of normal shit-like being bullied and people dying in his life constantly. I was inspired to write it because of David Copperfield, not Superman, but because I love alien stories, it was just a tool I chose to tell this kid's story. This all said, I also worked on a lot of Spiderman in my career-so I figure it's just supposed to be that way, or maybe I have jumped to those opportunities because I love the character so much.
Now onto out other hero, Batman! Holysuperhero trio Batman, I love Batman. I loved the old TV shows, I love the comics, I love ALL the movies-yes even the bad ones. Remember this? "Hi Freeze, I'm Batman." Oh the camp. I enjoy it tremendously, and a rich playboy orphan doing good for the city of Gotham? I can get behind that. He is def. on my tops, hence why all the other characters that could be in this post aren't.
So between the three who is your fave? Geek poll Sunday. :)

(And yes I worked on both a newer Spiderman flick and The Dark Knight-so I guess I have to work on something with the man of steel someday)

Monday, October 15, 2012

California Drivers

This is what is bugging me. You know how channel 7 news has this, "what's bugging you?"thing? Well CA drivers bug me.
First of all, it is a speed requirement. If you go under it, especially 20 mph under it, you are just as dangerous as those who are speeding-get your shit together, put your foot on the gas and drive.
Second of all, why are all Prius drivers, Pri-ASSES? You don't own the road and you don't get to make your own rules.
Thirdly, it's called a turn signal to SIGNAL the person behind you, NOT to flip on as you are already making the turn.

Look, I took the California driver test-it's hard, so why are there so many bad drivers here? This city was built around driving, but seems like people can't here more than anywhere else. Maybe it's all the pot these people smoke like it's legal-still not legal folks-but I digress.

Please Californians, learn how to drive, I am begging you.

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Been Super Busy....What Else is New?

Hey everyone~
So sorry I haven't been blogging as much as usual. Things have been crazy since my father passed away in June. I was in and out of work and working 100 hours a week to survive for low pay or no pay-seriously...welcome to the industry.
But I got a great illustration gig and have been writing a lot more. I also moved apartments and 'burbs of Lalaland so it's just been a question of time.
I have started back up with the ghost story a day for October. Check them out at and am getting my novel, Four Seconds ready for publication so I can help raise money for the Bridge Rail Foundation.
I also am going to be doing the NaNoWriMo for RYUAN book two this Nov-next month.
Before any of that, I have to do my taxes! I am STILL waiting for 1099s and w2s...yup, it's October. I called the IRS and they said to just get it filed and I can always go back later. UGH. What a pain.
That said, I am doing the best that I can and if anyone wants to donate to the starving artist and writer who lost her dog, her father and all her money but owes Uncle Sam fund, please contact me....hahaha kidding-sort of. Okay, Tom Cruise, just buy my film and that will take care of it in one sweep? Lotto?
No? Whatever, actually I will be helping the economy because the interest is going to be like a small house payment in middle America by the time I am done.
That all said, I promise to get back to this blog soon.. I do, I really do!
Hope you are all awesome!
I'm just sayin'

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Katie Used to Be a Respected Journalist

Hrm? Katie Couric has a talk show? Katie Couric? That just seems weird to me. I always thought she was a great journalist and loved her interviews. She has never been Christine Amanpour, but a daytime talk show?
I have to be honest, I won't be watching because it just seems like all the other shows out there and I love Ellen's, so why add a new one? I don't get it. The adverts don't look appealing and she is putting out an image of being stupid. Putting flyers on cars? What? UGH
I wish One Life to Live would just come back.
I'm just sayin'~

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Barack Obama for president 2012

“I'm inspired by my own children, how full they make my heart. They make me want to work to make the world a little bit better. And they make me want to be a better man.” — President Obama

You know I have done my very best to NOT be political this year on any social networks or blogs or anything because honestly people are idiots and they just want a reason to fight and I am all about being positive these days. I suffered two major losses this year with my dog of almost 14 years suddenly dying of Westie Lung Disease in January and then my father passing away in June. I was out of work for some of that time and the days were dark a lot of the time. That said, I was always hopeful about my future and one of the reasons is this man right here.


He doesn't just stand for the left side, he stands for everything that is right in this world and it blows me away that everyone can't see that. He is all about family. He is about peace-but not such a wuss that he will allow the US to be attacked. He is about healthcare reform. He is about education. He is about putting America back to work. He is about balancing out the tax issue. He is about SOLUTIONS.

I am not going to slam the other side, because I don't need to. I am voting for this man, because of who he is, not because of who the other guy isn't.

We live in scary times and I believe our president is doing his very best to make the world a better place.

I used to be a die hard-Alex P. Keaton-Republican with Nixon as my favorite president followed by Reagan, but then I grew up and I read more and more and slowly I went to the left. I have lived abroad and I have lived here and I love America, but what we have now isn't working. I do my best to be open minded about these things, but an America lead by anyone other than Obama right now is an America that terrifies me.

I wonder, have these people read the constitution and I am talking GOP. Do they know that it said to let everyone in, all races, all religions? One nation under God-it doesn't say which God by the way-one nation not a divided mess that we are now.

I believe that Obama is a not only a great president, but he is a great man capable of real change. 

I encourage everyone to get out and vote and don't vote green party or independent, because there are two choices. Republican and Democrat period. Make the right one, it's your future, it's your parents future, it's your kids' future, this time is serious. 

Barack Obama 2012 

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Heartwarming: Capitol Hill grieves for homeless man who was a neighborhood fixture.

This is a great story that will warm your heart. Here is a bit of it below, but click on the link for the full story in the Washington Post.

Capitol Hill grieves for homeless man who was a neighborhood fixture.

By  and Published: August 21

Peter Bis may have been the most rootless savant on Capitol Hill. He lived most of the past decade on the streets near Union Station without an address, a phone, a job or even a reliable connection to reality (unless the former law student with the uncanny memory really was Princess Diana’s former lover and a onetime aerospace magnate).
But in the week since Bis died of an apparent heart attack near his favorite corner at Second Street and Massachusetts Avenue NE, his many acquaintances — from think-tank economists to Hill waiters — have been marveling at just how deep a homeless man’s roots can sink into a busy neighborhood.

Sunday, August 19, 2012

Mediterranean diet: Choose this heart-healthy diet option!

Whoooo-hoooo viva Italiano!!! Are you afraid of gluten? Or grains? Or beans? Come on! This is from the Mayo Clinic AND the guy, Ancel Keys,who named this diet lived to be 100. So there.

Here is a great article!! I didn't write it, but I am sharing it. 

Mediterranean diet: Choose this heart-healthy diet option

The Mediterranean diet is a heart-healthy eating plan combining elements of Mediterranean-style cooking. Here's how to adopt the Mediterranean diet.

By Mayo Clinic staff
If you're looking for a heart-healthy eating plan, the Mediterranean diet might be right for you. The Mediterranean diet incorporates the basics of healthy eating — plus a splash of flavorful olive oil and perhaps a glass of red wine — among other components characterizing the traditional cooking style of countries bordering the Mediterranean Sea.
Most healthy diets include fruits, vegetables, fish and whole grains, and limit unhealthy fats. While these parts of a healthy diet remain tried-and-true, subtle variations or differences in proportions of certain foods may make a difference in your risk of heart disease.

Benefits of the Mediterranean diet

Research has shown that the traditional Mediterranean diet reduces the risk of heart disease. In fact, a recent analysis of more than 1.5 million healthy adults demonstrated that following a Mediterranean diet was associated with a reduced risk of overall and cardiovascular mortality, a reduced incidence of cancer and cancer mortality, and a reduced incidence of Parkinson's and Alzheimer's diseases.
For this reason, most if not all major scientific organizations encourage healthy adults to adapt a style of eating like that of the Mediterranean diet for prevention of major chronic diseases.
Key components of the Mediterranean diet

The Mediterranean diet emphasizes:
  • Getting plenty of exercise
  • Eating primarily plant-based foods, such as fruits and vegetables, whole grains, legumes and nuts
  • Replacing butter with healthy fats such as olive oil and canola oil
  • Using herbs and spices instead of salt to flavor foods
  • Limiting red meat to no more than a few times a month
  • Eating fish and poultry at least twice a week
  • Drinking red wine in moderation (optional)
The diet also recognizes the importance of enjoying meals with family and friends.

Fruits, vegetables, nuts and grains

The Mediterranean diet traditionally includes fruits, vegetables, pasta and rice. For example, residents of Greece eat very little red meat and average nine servings a day of antioxidant-rich fruits and vegetables. The Mediterranean diet has been associated with a lower level of oxidized low-density lipoprotein (LDL) cholesterol — the "bad" cholesterol that's more likely to build up deposits in your arteries.
Nuts are another part of a healthy Mediterranean diet. Nuts are high in fat (approximately 80 percent of their calories come from fat), but most of the fat is not saturated. Because nuts are high in calories, they should not be eaten in large amounts — generally no more than a handful a day. For the best nutrition, avoid candied or honey-roasted and heavily salted nuts.
Grains in the Mediterranean region are typically whole grain and usually contain very few unhealthy trans fats, and bread is an important part of the diet there. However, throughout the Mediterranean region, bread is eaten plain or dipped in olive oil — not eaten with butter or margarines, which contain saturated or trans fats.

Healthy fats

The focus of the Mediterranean diet isn't on limiting total fat consumption, but rather to make wise choices about the types of fat you eat. The Mediterranean diet discourages saturated fats and hydrogenated oils (trans fats), both of which contribute to heart disease.
The Mediterranean diet features olive oil as the primary source of fat. Olive oil provides monounsaturated fat — a type of fat that can help reduce LDL cholesterol levels when used in place of saturated or trans fats. "Extra-virgin" and "virgin" olive oils — the least processed forms — also contain the highest levels of the protective plant compounds that provide antioxidant effects.
Monounsaturated fats and polyunsaturated fats, such as canola oil and some nuts, contain the beneficial linolenic acid (a type of omega-3 fatty acid). Omega-3 fatty acids lower triglycerides, decrease blood clotting, are associated with decreased sudden heart attack, improve the health of your blood vessels, and help moderate blood pressure. Fatty fish — such as mackerel, lake trout, herring, sardines, albacore tuna and salmon — are rich sources of omega-3 fatty acids. Fish is eaten on a regular basis in the Mediterranean diet.


The health effects of alcohol have been debated for many years, and some doctors are reluctant to encourage alcohol consumption because of the health consequences of excessive drinking. However, alcohol — in moderation — has been associated with a reduced risk of heart disease in some research studies.
The Mediterranean diet typically includes a moderate amount of wine. This means no more than 5 ounces (148 milliliters) of wine daily for women (or men over age 65), and no more than 10 ounces (296 milliliters) of wine daily for men under age 65. More than this may increase the risk of health problems, including increased risk of certain types of cancer.
If you're unable to limit your alcohol intake to the amounts defined above, if you have a personal or family history of alcohol abuse, or if you have heart or liver disease, refrain from drinking wine or any other alcohol. Also keep in mind that red wine may trigger migraines in some people.

Putting it all together

The Mediterranean diet is a delicious and healthy way to eat. Many people who switch to this style of eating say they'll never eat any other way. Here are some specific steps to get you started:
  • Eat your veggies and fruits — and switch to whole grains. An abundance and variety of plant foods should make up the majority of your meals. They should be minimally processed, and try to purchase them when they're in season. Strive for seven to 10 servings a day of veggies and fruits. Switch to whole-grain bread and cereal, and begin to eat more whole-gain rice and pasta products. Keep baby carrots, apples and bananas on hand for quick, satisfying snacks. Fruit salads are a wonderful way to eat a variety of healthy fruit.
  • Go nuts. Keep almonds, cashews, pistachios and walnuts on hand for a quick snack. Choose natural peanut butter, rather than the kind with hydrogenated fat added. Try tahini (blended sesame seeds) as a dip or spread for bread.
  • Pass on the butter. Try olive or canola oil as a healthy replacement for butter or margarine. Use it in cooking. After cooking pasta, add a touch of olive oil, some garlic and green onions for flavoring. Dip bread in flavored olive oil or lightly spread it on whole-grain bread for a tasty alternative to butter. Try tahini (blended sesame seeds) as a dip or spread for bread too.
  • Spice it up. Herbs and spices make food tasty and are also rich in health-promoting substances. Season your meals with herbs and spices rather than salt.
  • Go fish. Eat fish once or twice a week. Fresh or water-packed tuna, salmon, trout, mackerel and herring are healthy choices. Grilled fish tastes good and requires little cleanup. Avoid fried fish, unless it's sauteed in a small amount of canola oil.
  • Rein in the red meat. Substitute fish and poultry for red meat. When eaten, make sure it's lean and keep portions small (about the size of a deck of cards). Also avoid sausage, bacon and other high-fat meats.
  • Choose low-fat dairy. Limit higher fat dairy products such as whole or 2 percent milk, cheese and ice cream. Switch to skim milk, fat-free yogurt and low-fat cheese.
  • Raise a glass to healthy eating. If it's OK with your doctor, have a glass of wine at dinner. If you don't drink alcohol, you don't need to start. Drinking purple grape juice may be an alternative to wine.

Don't Be Fooled About Wellness Coaches

Many of my close friends and anyone who has ever been around me for about 2 seconds knows that being healthy, not skinny, is part of who I am. I drink tons of water, my diet is mostly plant based and I don't eat sweets that often, so I am all for wellness blogs and such.

That said, everyone thinks that they can tell others what to do. So as a blog reader, you really need to be careful. Recently someone who I know personally who isn't that healthy, but is obsessed with trend diets is now claiming herself to be a fitness, wellbeing and health expert. This person knows nothing and unless you can get a degree in nutrition in a month, then, well you know.

She didn't even work out until last summer. She ate terribly and was just a pain to be around. So now all of a sudden she is telling people what to do.

One of her blogs is telling people that 8 glasses of water is excessive? WHAT?

 I mean how can you take someone serious who doesn't even practice what they preach?

Sadly this person isn't the only one like this, especially in Los Angeles where everyone thinks they are an expert.

Here are some facts about health and wellness:

1) Every person is different and what works for them may not work for everyone. We are all unique.
2) Just because someone writes a blog doesn't make them an expert.
3) Drinking water is healthy
4) Eating veggies is healthy
5) Eating lean protein is healthy
6) Eating junk is bad
7) Exercise is good, but everyone is at different levels
8) Fad or trend diets can be dangerous
9) Dropping massive pounds quickly is NOT healthy
10) Being underweight is just as unhealthy as being overweight

There so now I am an expert! Seriously! UGH, it drives me crazy. I actually have been certified by ACE and what used to be IDEA as a personal trainer and aerobic instructor as well as a few other specialty classes such as spinning. I also took a lot of nutrition classes and I still wouldn't call myself an expert just because this week I think it's a good idea to try to make money that way.

Because I am a decent person I won't post this person's blog-that's just mean, but if you are following a health and wellness blog-do your research before you take everything they say as "God's word." And be smart, check with a professional before doing anything radical to your diet.

Use common sense people, this is not brain surgery. Be aware of scams and people looking to get rich quick. Anyone can Google images and make a blog look good.

So I Guess I'll Stay Put

I have been wanting to get out of the hot weather for so long, but as things happen I go with them. I am very excited to say that I found a great apartment without even looking in my old neighborhood-that I left because the rents went up to crazy high rents and thus my move 25 miles north to "Agrestic". I have been looking in Santa Monica and San Francisco, but looks like I'll be a "Valley girl" a bit longer. And before you think it's too good to be true for me? There is no central air-but I am excited, my closest friends all live in that area, so YIPPEE!!

I actually said to the universe, "okay, if and only if there is a great place for under X amount on these four streets, I'll stay in the Valley, otherwise, find me something great on the west side." So in tune with my last post, I did put this out there and the universe delivered. I am so excited to decorate a new place!

Things I like about the Valley:

*Tons of industry people everywhere especially writers, actors and animation artists unlike over the hill where it's all producers and agents.
*Trees-we have trees and it's every green in the valley unlike the South Bay which is very pastel.
*It's comfortable to me because I know everyone and know my way around, it's like "home."
*Lots of places to hike.

So like oh-mi-God!! Totally.

Friday, August 17, 2012

Dear Universe, I'm Asking

As many of your know I have been working contract/freelance for many years and not entirely by choice. Freelance in the animation world used to mean more money and less hours, now it means way less money and way more hours. The studios are cutting corners and so it is what it is. I love to draw and I love writing, so working freelance was a great way for many years to do both. Also the studios are hiring less and less in house people, so it just sort of happened.

I have also been working as a freelance script reader for a few companies around town and even offering up my own services, and it's been great. I am very lucky to do what I love.

If you read my last post you will see that I am taking that full time-I will still freelance in animation-I mean after 17 years it is part of who I am, but I am excited to be getting more and more clients for Script Concierge, and more and more people interested in my class on dialogue.

Now the dreaming begins. I have never wanted for much-which is probably why I don't have much, you get what you ask for from the universe. When I was seven and told my mother I wanted to be an actress and work in entertainment she said, "You'll always be broke" and I said, "That's okay, I'll always be happy" and I am happy and I am, a lot of the time not flush-let's say not flush-sounds better than broke. I never cared about having money, making money or being rich, so I told the universe that it was okay. Now I am going to ask for some specific things such as:

A trip to Paris, I have always wanted to go and you know, I deserve it.

A great apartment on the west side. Yeah I was thinking about moving up to San Francisco, but if I live on the west side I am still here in Lala land-where my life in this crazy, fun, exciting industry is and I can go up to SF as much as I want. So I want my great apt. in Santa Monica. Here is a photo from a real lead I found. It's a little spendy-but not insane. So I am asking. Universe, my apt in Santa Monica.

And I want a book deal from a major publisher for RYUAN my YA novel that I am in love with. I have a series building and I would be oh so happy working full time on this series. Universe, I am asking. Random House or Bloomsbury-is that specific enough?

Thank you universe for listening. I know with some hard work and positive energy, things will happen, and since I am asking. How about a steady stream of money? Thanks!

Monday, August 13, 2012

My New Adventure-Script Concierge

Script Concierge is up and running! As many of you know, I have been doing a lot of script reading and coverage lately and I love it. I really love the feeling of helping a writer get their script into the best shape it can be in. I also love telling new writers about great coaches and workshops such as: Ellen Sandler. True story I was doing coverage last week for a fellow writer who wants to work in television, and she had never heard of Ellen!! I was shocked-but then I remember 5 years ago when I was trying to get my first show on the air, I hadn't either. I told this writer to go buy Ellen's book and she did and her pilot is already stronger. Yay! I know that stuff. The last five years have been intense for me, in the scriptwriting world. I have taken so many classes and workshops and online classes and attended many panels that now I have this wealth of information that took me five years to collect-almost like going to university full time. And during that time, I have written many scripts from screenplays to spec teleplays to original pilots and been hired in development and as a writer. I love what I do and I really get excited helping others.

So I decided to teach a class on character and dialogue called, Who Said That? starting on Sept 10th, please email me at stepholivieri at for more info, or check my blog (see above) and or my website, Dialogue is something that most writers struggle with-if you're not one of them-you are lucky-and I happen to be really good at it and more importantly being able to see when characters are lost in the same voice and or undefined voices.

This all said, I am very excited, please feel free to share with other writers. I have been contacted already about doing a couple lectures for a couple studios, and I am open to collaborating with others as well. I am working on my new book, Who Said That? as well.

I hope that you are all having a great day and continuing stopping by, this blog is really my fun, op ed blog where I can say anything even if not industry related.

Cheers and happy Monday!

Thursday, August 2, 2012

Choosing a New Way-Just What I Needed

Funny how the universe seems to know what's going on. Lately I have been feeling "off" maybe because my father died in June and or my doggie died in January, the fact that work is unpredictable and or that I am - EEEEK - middle aged, although it does NOT feel that way. In any case, I am not sure why, but my usually strong self has been having a lot of questions and the biggest.


I know what I am doing, following my dreams and working in entertainment. But that comes with always being rejected, ALWAYS, and then getting a job and then it ends early, or doesn't start, or is great and then you are out of work, AGAIN.

Sigh.. but in any case, I have been trying to make a new plan of action to support myself while I am pursuing my dream-writing.

I got this in my inbox today and thought I would share because it's perfect. If you aren't already signed up on the Daily Om, you should, it's great.
Here is the link and then what mine said today-PERFECT for me.

July 31, 2012

Choosing a New Way
Pisces Daily Horoscope
You could feel restless and ready to make changes in your life today. Perhaps you are reevaluating your life’s direction or focusing on a few key areas that could use improvement. If you’ve been feeling bored or dissatisfied with any part of your life lately, you could benefit from introspection. Examining the main facets of your life will likely reveal the areas that need a breath of fresh air. You also may want to consider how your previous actions have contributed to your situation today. While you may not be responsible for every situation, your choices have most likely played a role in creating your current circumstances. If you can take responsibility for your life and become aware of the connections between your actions and their results, you can make beneficial decisions.

By gaining a clear understanding of how our actions create our results, we can learn to make wiser decisions. It can be easy to make our decisions on autopilot without thought to the consequences. Our decisions can take on new depth and meaning, however, if we can consider the outcome we wish to create and take the steps that can bring it about. We become cocreators with the universe and gain greater control over our circumstances. By understanding that each decision you make today contributes to a specific result, you can let your choices lead you down an exciting path of growth and fulfillment.

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Americano? YUM

So I ran out of coffee about three days ago and have been so busy with this latest project that I haven't had time to leave the house and get more, I have been living on Yerba mate, but it's not the same.

I was scrounging in my apt and found a last Tassimo espresso disk, but I have no milk disks left for lattes or cappuccinos. What is a girl in need of a fix to do? Remembering that in places like Italy they think we are insane over here with "coffee"-they don't seem to understand it's a different bean-I remembered the "Americano" and thought to myself if I just filled the cup with hot water, I would have sort of a coffee.
Oh before I go on, I have to tall you, I was out of milk, so I only have non dairy dry creamer, which does NOT work in espresso, only coffee.
I did it!! And it was soooo YUMMY. I am excited that A) I got the coffee I needed and B) now I have a new drink.

Friday, July 20, 2012

"Who Would You Have Dinner With?"

In college and even some job applications that age old essay question always pops up: "Who would you have dinner with, dead or alive, if given the chance?"

In 10th grade, I answered Madonna because I thought she was strong, ambitious, smart and could do whatever she wanted. I admired her so much, and wanted to be like her in many ways-not a pop start-but I wanted to be like her spirit. I was living alone at the time (long story), and had really no one in my life to look up to and she was a role model to me.

In 12th grade we were asked the same question and again, I answered, Madonna for the same reasons. Although at this point I had moved in with my mother and my step-father, who hated me in high school. I was really close to my step-brother John, but still felt isolated and alone and Madonna symbolized someone who made it on her own, even though things were hard.

Throughout the years I have had many idols and of course that question has been asked of me in interviews and such. I even had to write an essay for a college application a few years back. There are lots of people who I would like to have dinner with.

Nora Ephron-for being a role model to me as a woman and as a writer. She changed the way I felt about romantic comedies and character.

Rick Allen of Def Leppard-for going on as a DRUMMER after losing his arm in a car accident.

Ron Howard-amazing director.

Woody Allen-the writing thing again.

Tom Cruise-he's hot, I admire his work and "why" Scientology Tom? Why?

But to be honest, the one person living or dead who I would want to have dinner with is my father.

He passed away on June 7th of this year and for the last 6 years he has been living a home with dementia. He was too far away for me to go see him and since work has been a Craps shoot-although I am great at Craps-I haven't been able to visit so I sent him cards every other day.

If I could have dinner with him I would tell him how much his death is destroying me inside day by day and how much I miss him. I would tell him how much I admire him for living through the war-WW2-as a teenager/sniper and going underground with the American army. I would tell him how much I admired him for always enjoying life and making the best even when things sucked. I would tell him that he was strong and noble and caring and everything I hope to be someday. I would apologize for not visiting him more and writing to him more before he got so sick. I would tell him that he changed who I am by leaving me and shaped who I am just for being my father. I would tell him how much those trips to Tasty-Freeze as a kid meant to me, and hanging out at the airport where he worked. I would tell him that I am sorry that I wasn't there and he was sad and I couldn't help him stop drinking. I would tell him how very sorry I am for every time he called and I didn't have time to talk to him because I was too busy with my life out here in California. I would tell him how much every one of those calls on my birthday at midnight meant to me, and New Year's Eve when he would call me twice, once at 9 pm pst-because that was when the ball actually dropped in NYC, and then again at midnight pst because that was when I was having my new year-I would tell him how much those calls meant to me. I would tell him that I love him. I would tell him how angry I am that he left me, and I would tell him that I miss him every second of every day.

That's who I would spend my dinner with, if given the chance.

My father. Just sayin'

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Allowing People To Act A Certain Way

Nobody can do anything to you that you don’t allow it. People treat you the way you treat yourself.

I allowed a friend to treat me terribly for about 4 years, everyone around kept asking why I was still friends with her. I mean EVERYONE, even the mailman and other people in the neighborhood were asking me, but I kept giving her chance after chance and thinking she would change.

She wasn't abusive or anything like that, but she brought being selfish to new heights and I am a little sad the friendship is now over-my father dying inconvenienced her and so I was done, I just couldn't take it anymore-because she isn't a bad person, just a selfish one.

I don't believe she did anything to me out of malice, but rather just didn't care-at all. She would constantly make me an option while I made her a priority, she talked behind my back to get attention from her friends-yes drama queen. She was just a child-really immature and she pouted about everything.

That said, I allowed it to go on, like a dog, I basically trained her, or taught her that it was okay to treat me like that, so I can hardly blame her. It's my own fault. That said my life is better without her in it, and I realized that it was just as much my fault as hers because I allowed it.

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

A Cold Day Where I Come From

Wouldn't it be fun to put on a scarf, hat, gloves and jacket on days like today when we are in the triple digits and mess with people? I can see it now. Walking down the street and saying ridiculous things like, "This is a cold day in Phoenix, when it drops below 110 we get out the winter gear." just to see the look on people's faces.
If I didn't get bloody noses, headaches, sick to my stomach and general passing out on days like today, I would do just that.
Ever notice in the winter, when it's 40 degrees and pissing down rain, some eegit from Chicago, or somewhere like that, always is wearing shorts and claiming "this is a hot day where I come from." News flash, 40 degrees is cold everywhere jerk.

Just sayin'

Sunday, July 8, 2012

Fake Meat? I Don't Get It!

I don't really understand fake meat, fake cheese, gluten free bread etc.-if you don't want to eat that stuff-don't, it's really simple-but swapping natural things for processed because it's "something free" doesn't make a whole lot of sense now doe it?

You hear people all the time saying things like, "I have been vegan and healthy my whole life, I have no idea how I got cancer, I mean, all I eat is fake meat, fake cheese, and low fat processed shit all the time." I mean, honestly, it's like the whole world has gone crazy.

When I am vegetarian, I don't eat meat-PERIOD-I don't have fake meat, I don't eat meat. I eat veggies, it's that simple.

I don't understand this obsession with low fat everything either, I mean, how does it become low fat? PROCESSING. How can that possibly be good for you? Soy milk? How is soy a milk? PROCESSING. Use your brain a little bit. Is it worth it to save 30-60 calories? Another way you could save those is, um, here's a thought-consume LESS, or walk more. It's not brain surgery here.

And what is the deal with gluten free? Is all of American suddenly allergic to gluten? Did we all get sick all at once? Come on! People, just because it's trendy doesn't mean it's healthy.

I personally don't eat a lot of gluten because I just don't like bread that much, pizza and stuff like that. For the record, I am not afraid of carbs, I just like veggies and salads more.

I don't mean to make anyone feel bad by writing this blog, but honestly just sit and think for a minute, how is eating processed fake meat and processed bread and processed non dairy mile healthier than just eating fresh veggies and skipping the meat and dairy?

I'm just sayin' folks-use your brain. Eat less, exercise more. Eat fresh and you'll be grand.

Friday, June 15, 2012

You Gotta See The Baby!

It's like the episode of Seinfeld, "The Hamptons" (working title-the Ugly Baby) when you have friends with really weird looking kids that they think are cute and they constantly ask you to comment on photos. "You gotta see the baby!" :)

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

You Know How....Bust A Move

Next days function, high class luncheon
Food is served and you're stone cold munchin'
Music comes on, people start to dance
But then you ate so much you nearly split your pants


You remember how when you were in junior high and high school and a hit song would come on and your mother would either make a comment about how it was originally made when she was young, or that music just has changed?
Well OMG, it's now happening to me. Last night I was driving up the 5 (SoCal) blasting and singing Bon Jovi's Living On A Prayer from Slippery When Wet which came out when I was in high school!
I feel so old and, Bust A Move? LOVED that song in college. How did I get so old?

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Facebook and Twitter Behavior

So today Nathan Bransford posted a great blog on social media blunders and I had to add to it. Here is the link though. Read it-it's great.
Besides the 5 mentioned here, I have a few that I would love to add.

6. Posting a link to everything you just read. Joe Facebook guy just read an article-then I have to go and add an app to see that article-that's a pain in the arse. If the article was that good-just share it on your page.

7. Becoming a news anchor. Posting every big news event that is on the news. Look if its on the news, we've probably already seen in. But okay to be fair, I hate the news so I do get a lot of my news from people posting links, but still would you walk into your work office and say, "a girl off the coast of CA was bit by...." whatever it is? No most likely you wouldn't.

8. Posting photos of abused animals! STOP this. It's really awful and I don't want to see it.

9. Posting about pets who will surely meet their maker if I don't adopt them right now. Again-this is disturbing cut it out.

10. Political rants-ENOUGH Is enough. Would you go into your job and start ranting about this crap?

11. Religious rants and Bible thumping.

12. Photos of nasty stuff-if it's gross to you, it is to us-why share?

13. Posting negative stuff on other's pages and or starting rants on someone else's page.

14. Slamming people-anyone on other people's pages.

15. Telling me what you had to eat every second of the day. Honestly, I just don't care that much.

I am sure there are a lot more, but come on people. Lighten up-a LOT-seriously.

Saturday, April 7, 2012

There is Always A Silver Lining

My super obnoxious pot head neighbors are doing their nightly (yes every single night) party on their patio (which is about 10 feet from my window), and their white trash friends are screaming and yelling as per normal behavior-but no one would ever break into any apts on this corner as they are always out there-I guess that's the silver lining.

I don't understand people who act like this though. Seriously? You live in an apartment!!! Stop yelling and screaming every night!