Tuesday, December 28, 2010
First of all, I generally hate basketball, but if I had to choose a team I would go with the Knicks because MSG is AWESOME, and any team playing the Lakers. I know I am living in L.A. but growing on on the east coast we were sort of trained from birth to hate them. I can't really love the Celtics because Larry Bird was on for so long and just too ugly to look at.
I had friends from college play on for the Spurs and the Suns, so I'll cheer them on, and who doesn't like the Bulls?
When March madness rolls around. I have to cheer on my old alma mater -the AZ Wildcats! Bear down Arizona and any team playing ASU.
Now for football. I have to be honest and say that I was never a huge Jets or Giants fan. I have always HATED DallASS and I think that is because I grew up watching the Pittsburgh Steelers and fell in love with them when they were badass.
I have always loved them, but am not from Pittsburgh or anything. I did fly on a plane with the entire team when I was a kid, sat next to Mean Joe Green and Rocky Blier, even got some autographs and listened to them complain about Terry Bradshaw coming back too soon. My dad on the other day proudly said he loved the Cowboys-I am surprised we didn't get tossed off that plane.
I have also always loved the Bears
and the Redskins and the 49ers.
The most important sport of them all- BASEBALL
I used to be a huge Yankee fan but like that gorgeous popular guy in high school that you fell in love with-at some point I realized that they are a bunch of rich, spoiled, overrated players and I have no interest in them anymore. It was like I woke up one day and said, "I can't believe I was ever remotely interested in these guys."
I do love the Red Sox. I had written a novel a couple years back and it takes place in Boston and one of the main characters plays for the Red Sox, so I called them up and said, "I'm a Yankee fan and know nothing about your ball club, but am writing a novel and need some info." Well they sent me tons of stuff including the history of the Red Sox, a PR kit, a hat, a shirt and tickets and opened themselves up for any questions and then wrote me a personal thank you letter for including them in my novel-that was classy and that won me over.
I love the Chicago Cubs because Wrigley is the BEST baseball stadium by far.
I haven't been to all of them, but I have been to a lot and I love Wrigley the most. If I lived in Chicago I would have season tickets for sure. When I lived in Wisconsin I spent many a Sunday in Chicago at Wrigley. As well, Cubs fans are the most optimistic fans on the planet. Their team never gets anywhere and yet they still show up and stay the entire game-unlike Dodger-fair weather fans-that leave during the 7th inning stretch like clock-work. I can get behind a team and a group of optimists, the world needs more people like the Cubs and their fans. And in front of the field across from McDonald's there is a hot dog stand that makes the best hot dogs on the planet. New York may have the best pizza, but Chicago has the best dogs and where you can find them is at Wrigley!
So when you hear me cheering on the Sox and the Cubs and hating the Yankees, don't be confused. When I root against the Lakers, understand it- and in football-it's all just fun, unless it's DallASS then it's serious.
People who constantly put political stuff on FB-enough already
People who constantly put religious crap on FB-not everyone has your crazy belief system
& Sarah Palin
Thursday, December 23, 2010
People who take things too seriously-especially on FB, Twitter or any other social network
People who lie about stupid shit
Getting gum stuck on my shoe
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
When people think that just because they like something that I should as well.
People that are always late.
That people generally don't listen.
When I tell people I like to eat healthy and am vegetarian and they want me to eat at a diner.
When people sing out loud in the movie theater-during the movie.
When people can't help out cleaning their own stuff and then I am expected to do it in the middle of my work day.
When people say I don't have a real job because I am an artist.
When friends say they want to hang out with you, then drop you for their work colleagues at a bar.
Monday, November 29, 2010
I had nothing else planned for the day except dropping off some work I had done over the weekend at the studio I am currently freelancing for-hoping for more work from them later this week- and that was it.
Little did I know when I logged into Facebook around lunchtime one of my favorite persons/people/friends would be in town and having lunch right down the street. I texted her and ended up having an impromptu/surprise visit with her! How awesome is that? I had no idea I was going to see her today, but I did.
Then later while walking home from the studio I ran into another friend who offered me a pumpkin cupcake and an afternoon chat :0)
What a great day!
I also got paid to write two articles-it isn't much, but it is always nice to get paid to write and I had no idea that was going to happen.
I haven't gotten much actual writing in for the novel-but I have worked out the rest of it and the ending! It is SOOOO GOOD! OMG I am so excited.
Oh ....and I was contacted about an acting job in Seattle-doesn't pay huge, but does pay. That is a horse of a-whole-nother color and I will totally write a blog about it, I am sure. I will be moving out of Los Angeles to act-but to be honest-that would be great! Acting, writing and living in Seattle. Not sure what will happen with it, but when I woke up today I hadn't heard back from the lady who contacted me last week-now I have-another contact and possible fun job.
I am writing this blog to all the Monday haters out there. I say every single day is an opportunity for something fun, someone to come into your life, to hang out with friends, a new job, a new adventure and Mondays are the best because they kick start the rest of the week!
I'm just sayin' you never know what the day will bring! :0)
Friday, November 26, 2010
Seriously girls! Why must you act like this? I don't understand it. I really don't. It is all fine and well to be "in love", but to ditch your friends every time he calls is just plain wrong, on many levels and let me explain why.
1) You are sending him the message that you are needy
2) You are sending your friends the message that you don't care about them or your friendship
3) It is pathetic on so many levels
4) It is bad etiquette all around to blow someone off for any reason, much less a guy
I have a friend who has done this to me now 3 times. The first time I let it go. The second time I brought up the first time and she "giggled" yes I said, giggled and replied "well I would understand if you did it to me." When I told he that I wouldn't do that, she defended herself by saying "last time she checked she was a girl."
I thought I made it perfectly clear that it wasn't acceptable, and yet she did it again.
It was bad enough that she did it the first time, but the fact that I let her do it two more times?
I know, I know, I know....when I said, "haven't you ever heard bros over hoes?" She said, an giggled, "yeah, guys over girls."
Oh well, it is what it is. I gave her chances to make it up, but now she had lost a potentially good friend and for what? A guy who would leave her if she said she had plans? What a shame.
I have never done that to a friend, nor would I.
I'm just sayin'
~okay, if Jake Gyllenhaal called me, then I would-but I would have the cojones to ring my friend and scream "Jake Gyllenhaal just rang me, so I'll have to cancel our plans!!"
Saturday, November 20, 2010
So you've read the books and you've seen the latest film - part one anyhow. What did you think?
I want to start a discussion about it. I am curious what everyone thinks?
I still believe that the films are just like Cliff's Notes for the books, and I liked what this director did, but it would have been really hard to follow for people who hadn't read the books.
Don't think there is anyone like that out there? There is.
I think Yates has done a really good job in directing the 5th-7th, as these were clearly the hardest ones to work with in that they were extremely long books and grew more and more complicated as they went on.
I happen to like all the films, but LOVE the books and believe that everyone should read them. The UK versions are better-and yes they did change things in the American versions-UGH...Go get them, read them!
(Cover of the UK version
(Cover of the UK version)
For those of you that have read them all and saw the Deathly Hallows Part One.. what did you think??
Here is a list of the films and directors
Chris Columbus directed the first two films, Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone and Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets
Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, was directed by Alfonso Cuarón
Mike Newell directed the fourth entry, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire
Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, was directed by David Yates. Yates also helmed the sixth entry in the series, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince, as well as both parts of the seventh and final instalment, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
I found out that Seattle doesn’t really get that much rain compared to most U.S. cities. In fact, Seattle ranks 44th among major U.S. cities in average annual rainfall, getting approximately 38 inches annually. Cities that get more rainfall than Seattle include such as Houston Texas (48 inches), New Orleans (60 inches), Mobile AL (65 inches), Memphis (52 inches), Nashville (48 inches), and pretty much every major city on the eastern seaboard, such as New York (43 inches), Philadelphia (41 inches), Miami (58 inches), and Boston (44 inches)
Here is the thing about Seattle. The weather is perfect. I lived there and while it does rain more than Los Angeles, it is not a rainy place, not like New York, or Vermont where I swear unless it is snowing it is raining. Pissing down rain actually. In Seattle when it rains, it clears up and sunshine is there. So why not call it the sunshine state? Oh cuz Florida-which actually has more rain than Seattle-has that name.
I have been seriously considering a move back up north. I loved it when I was there, but things were tough after Sept 11th and I came back to L.A. and the entertainment business with my tail between my legs. Yeah I know most people leave L.A. cuz they can't make it in entertainment, but I did the opposite.
When do I ever do anything normal?
I can't leave the industry, but I can work it from a place I love, and Seattle is that place. I am not sure when or how, but I am going back and if you all want to think it rains every day, please go ahead. I will enjoy it all to myself.
I'm just sayin' I LOVE Seattle and it isn't all "that" wet.
Monday, October 18, 2010
This quote is just funny to me and I know that if and when I meet Zuckerberg in person, this is exactly why we will get along famously. He isn't trying to be a dick-but the truth hurts.
"Mark Zuckerberg, the company's chief executive, apologized to users, saying that some of the site's privacy settings had become too complicated for the average user to understand."
This said, I have never had an issue with the privacy settings...just sayin'; it ain't rocket science.
Facebook Acknowledges Privacy Issue With Applications
The New York Times
MIGUEL HELFT, On Monday October 18, 2010, 12:16 pm EDT
Facebook said on Monday that it was talking to application developers about how they handle some personal data, after a report said some applications had been improperly sharing the data with advertisers and Web tracking companies.
Facebook's statement came after The Wall Street Journal reported late on Sunday that it had found that several Facebook applications were "providing access to people's names and, in some cases, their friends' names" to advertisers and Internet tracking companies. The report said that all 10 of the most popular applications on Facebook, including games like FarmVille and Mafia Wars, were transmitting user IDs to third parties. Three of those applications were also transmitting information about a user's friends, The Journal said.
Facebook also sought to downplay the significance of the problem. "Press reports have exaggerated the implications of sharing" a user ID, Mr. Vernal wrote on a company blog for application developers. "Knowledge of a UID does not enable anyone to access private user information without explicit user consent."
Yet Mr. Vernal acknowledged that the sharing of user IDs was in violation of its privacy policies, and said that it had disabled some programs that did so.
Mr. Vernal said there were technical challenges involved in preventing this problem. "We are talking with our key partners and the broader Web community about possible solutions," he wrote. "We will have more details over the course of the next few days."
Facebook has been hit with a string of controversies over privacy. In May, after a series of complaints from some users and privacy advocates, the company made wholesale changes to its privacy settings. Mark Zuckerberg, the company's chief executive, apologized to users, saying that some of the site's privacy settings had become too complicated for the average user to understand. Despite the changes, the privacy issue has continued to dog Facebook.
I don't understand people...and warning, this entry will probably offend some of you, but don't get mad at me, or Zuckerberg, just fix your privacy issues and move on.
It blows me away that people give out their personal info on FB and then get pissed off at Zuck about it. I mean, use your brain people. When the app asks you if you will allow it to access everything including your first born isn't that a clue NOT to use it? As well, if you have your address, phone number, full birthday, etc..you are at risk. Don't blame the creator for your own stupidity.
I mean really. I see more and more people complaining about Mark Zuckerberg for invading their privacy when in reality they are the ones putting the info up there.
It isn't really that hard. Back in the day before Social Networking, did you sign each email with your name, address, location, phone number, names of your kids, your dog and what you were eating? No of course not.
Did you put all than on letters before email? Nope again.
So why did you think it is okay to put that on Facebook? Just so you have a reason to hate the youngest billionaire on the planet?
It's not Mark's fault if you are too stupid not to do these things. Most of it is common sense.
Here is an article about another breach of security having to do with Farmville-which IMHO is the lamest app around.
Just to be clear I have used the apps, they are fun. I have seen which decade I fit in, who in the Harry Potter series I am, read my horoscope, but at the end of the day, I delete the app straight away after I use it.
I also don't have much real personal stuff on Facebook in the first place. If someone that I am really friends with, or someone from work wants any of it, all they have to do is ask me for it.
I have to comment on one more thing before I post the article.
People, why must you put photos of your children, especially babies on here?
You really need to think about what you are doing? These are your kids and opens you up to a whole world of problems, and not just predators. What about just the fact that all your FB friends know your kids names, ages, where they go to school etc? These are your children. Protect them. I think photos should be only shared with people you actually know. You can control these with your privacy settings. It is pretty easy to make a private photo album. It isn't that I don't like seeing your kids, I do, kids are great! But I always worry for your security.
Okay, enough on making everyone I know feel stupid-sorry.. but really think about what you are putting out there.
Here is the article.... read, learn, listen and be safe.
Cut and paste link for full story
By EMILY STEEL And GEOFFREY A. FOWLER
Many of the most popular applications, or "apps," on the social-networking site Facebook Inc. have been transmitting identifying information—in effect, providing access to people's names and, in some cases, their friends' names—to dozens of advertising and Internet tracking companies, a Wall Street Journal investigation has found.
The issue affects tens of millions of Facebook app users, including people who set their profiles to Facebook's strictest privacy settings. The practice breaks Facebook's rules, and renews questions about its ability to keep identifiable information about its users' activities secure.
The problem has ties to the growing field of companies that build detailed databases on people in order to track them online—a practice the Journal has been examining in its What They Know series. It's unclear how long the breach was in place. On Sunday, a Facebook spokesman said it is taking steps to "dramatically limit" the exposure of users' personal information.
A Facebook user ID may be inadvertently shared by a user's Internet browser or by an application," the spokesman said. Knowledge of an ID "does not permit access to anyone's private information on Facebook," he said, adding that the company would introduce new technology to contain the problem identified by the Journal.
"Our technical systems have always been complemented by strong policy enforcement, and we will continue to rely on both to keep people in control of their information," the Facebook official said.
Sunday, October 10, 2010
would never grow up to be Tony Stonem ~ Skins (2007)
Nicholas Hoult has transformed.
This kid, I say kid, even though in the UK and across Europe he has become a sex symbol-a concept that is still weird to me, because he will always be Marcus Brewer "shake your ass" dork,
this kid has grown up to be a really good looking young man and he is a terrific actor.
I saw him in The Weatherman in 2005 and Nicolas Cage played his father-yeah right, Tom Cruise could be, but sorry Cage, no way. In any case, he had some pretty dramatic scenes in that film and did a great job. Now I see him in Skins and it is very weird to see his character play such a wanker. That said, he is a great actor. He has been given some amazing scenes and just like in About a Boy, he delivers.
He was also in A Single Man, which I haven't seen yet, I believe this guy is someone to watch closely. I am sure he will go far.
I would love to write something and put him in it. He is really that good of an actor. The next Tom Cruise? Maybe. Hard to say, he is young, but he does resemble him in looks and talent.
If you haven't seen Skins, you should. It is a great show with amazing characters.
Again, I am gobsmacked when I see him now, it's so weird. I have seen About a Boy like a million times and so I feel like I know Marcus (and Will-Hugh Grant) so it is a bit disturbing to see him play Tony.
Friday, October 8, 2010
This article came out today and it makes me wonder why people can't use anything responsibly? I mean really? I can only say, if you are on Facebook-and the whole world is-don't be a douchebag. If I end up in your group, I will probably "leave the group" and drop you as a friend. Already it's crazy to get a gazillion group invites, and now people can just add people? That's fine. I have no problems with Faecbook itself, but it's the wankers that don't use it properly and cause trouble....So please use it responsibly. It is awesome, we all love it.Here is the article. I think you will find it interesting~
Facebook's New Groups Feature Worries Some
This week's overhaul of Facebook groups quickly led to an outcry over the way the service works, but the bigger lesson may be simply this: Be careful who you befriend.
The problems started on Thursday, the day after Facebook revamped groups, giving users a way to compartmentalize their Facebook lives and post certain items to pre-designated groups of people. That's when technology blogger Michael Arrington, Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg, and Mahalo founder Jason Calacanis all found themselves added to a group called NAMBLA. It wasn't immediately clear what this page was set up for, but NAMBLA is an acronym for the completely unsavory North American Man/Boy Love Association. (For South Park fans, it refers to the National Association of Marlon Brando Look-Alikes).
Mahalo CEO Calacanis quickly fired off an email to Zuckerberg Calacanis quickly fired off an email to Zuckerberg saying that he was troubled to have been added to the group without being given the opportunity to opt in.
That was followed by general confusion, with some reporting that Facebook's new feature could be used to unilaterally add anyone to a group.
But that isn't the case. The groups feature now lets users automatically add existing friends to groups, but they can't do this with people they don't know.
How did Zuckerberg get added to NAMBLA then? That's all down to tech blogger Arrington. "I typed in his name and hit enter,' Arrington wrote on TechCrunch. "He's my Facebook friend, I therefore have the right to add him."
Arrington added that "as soon as Zuckerberg unsubscribed I lost the ability to add him to any further groups at all, another protection against spamming and pranks."
A Facebook spokeswoman confirmed that group members can only add their friends to the group. "If you have a friend that is adding you to groups you do not want to belong to, or they are behaving in a way that bothers you, you can tell them to stop doing it, block them or remove them as a friend -- and they will no longer ever have the ability to add you to any group," she wrote in an e-mail. "If you don't trust someone to look out for you when making these types of decisions on the site, we'd suggest that you shouldn't be friends on Facebook."
Facebook Friends can also send messages and tag photos of other friends. Neither of these features has generated any type of outcry.
Arrington himself was added to the group by someone named Jon Fisher, one of Arrington's 4,824 Facebook friends. Fisher is also one of Calacanis's 4,740 friends.
Still, there is something disquieting about the way groups works, according to Chet Wisniewski, a senior security advisor with Sophos. He's concerned with the fact that people cannot opt out of the groups sign-up feature. "I'm uncomfortable with the idea that other people can determine what I display," he said. "The fact that it can't be opted out of, to me, seems a bit strange."
Facebook's groups Help Center confirms that there's simply no way to prevent people from adding you to groups. And the critics say that rather than being added automatically, friends should be given the choice to opt into any groups.
In a sign that Calacanis and Wisniewski may be onto something, online affiliate marketers have begun speculating about how the feature could be misused to drive traffic to marketing Web sites -- a current favorite form of Facebook abuse. "If you were to make a group named AT&T and decided to make a few 'official' Facebook spokesperson accounts to add to the fun, you could essentially launch a campaign offering FREE WIRELESS SERVICE FOR EVERYONE DURING THE MONTH OF OCTOBER," wrote a poster named Jon to the Wickedfire.com Internet marketing forum.
This Jon also claimed to have set up a fake NAMBLA page.
"Seeing as how crowd manipulation and influence over the interwebz is sooooooo easy already, plus tack on this as a social parody of sorts, and poof, you have yourself a publicity nightmare on a scale that would be spreading far more rapidly than any BP oil spill ever could," he added.
Thursday, October 7, 2010
I love Project Runway. I have watched it from the beginning and always enjoy the fashion and creativity of it. This season immediately I liked several people, and Micheal Costello (Michael C - as everyone calls him) was one of them. I loved his personality and I loved how he handled some truly awful situations that happened to him by some of the others.
I friended him on Facebook (thank you Mark Zuckerberg!! Love Facebook) and I noticed under his favorite quotes he has this:
"love your life and make the most of it! be straight forward!!! and dont care what any one thinks!!! put your passions first!!! and if they really love you they can wait!!!! that goes for anything and every one!!! remember to be a good role model for your kids..
and treat people like you would want to be treated!!!!"
This is so Michael, and I respect him so much for showing the world how to handle difficult people and be outstanding, respectful and most of all "classy".
Someday I will wear one of Michael's fabulous designs and when I am being interviewed on the red carpet I will want to say something like. "This is a one of a kind by Michael Costello, you can suck it Ivy!" but I won't, because Michael has taught us all that stooping to that level is wrong! I will just say. "This is a fabulous one of a kind by the awesome and talented Michael Costello"
Project Runway Season 8 on Lifetime now!~
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
It's raining again in southern California and I LOVE it. So many people complain about the wet and cold, but not me. I welcome this weather with open arms. It gives me energy and I feel charged and ready for anything!
It isn't really cold, more like chilly with temps between 50-65, and a light breeze I find it perfect.
If it was like this every day I would never want to leave.
For those of you that are saying "it's so cold I have to have my heat on" all I can say is this: man up! Seriously, this is not cold and you do not need to have your heat on. I think people like you should spend the winter in Chicago, or Milwaukee, or anywhere in upstate New York, Vermont of New Hamphire...seriously? Heat? Give me a break! I'm just sayin'
Another great thing about chilly wet days, is hot chocolate, it is fun to go outside and go running or something, then come in and warm up with a nice mug of chocolate~
Enjoy the day because this is SoCal and the hot hot hot temps will be back soon enough.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Is Mark Zuckerberg an evil genius? No way.. he is a geek, a nerd, a Harvard grad who had the billion dollar idea, smarts and passion to make it work. Got this from the New York Times Opinion section.
This is a great article about Mark Zuckerberg-who thanks to Hollywood everyone is talking about even more these days.
I have been fascinated by this young man since I heard about how Facebook started a couple years ago and have read many articles about him because he is like the J. K. Rowling of the internet...fucking brilliant idea-why didn't I think of that? Is what many people are scratching their heads wondering.
Like this article suggests, who knows exactly why it happened? Just like Bill Gates and some others that have been called innovators, some people are just smarter and their ideas work.
Here is the thing. In the film the character of Mark made a statement about chairs, and if one person comes up with a great chair, will the inventor of the chair sue him? No, of course not. But I know what you are thinking, this is different, it is an intellectual property, so he is liable.
I don't think so.
Wait-don't get upset-just listen, and before you get too upset, he paid those rowing blokes 65 million dollars. I don't think either of them was actually smart enough to do what Mark did, so whatever, they are rich. (I can only hope someone steals an idea of mine and pays me 65 million dollars for it-a girl can dream right? Steal away, pay up!!)
Okay, so I was at a writing panel last year and the writers for The Hangover were there and they openly admitted that they saw another film with the same premise and then they wrote The Hangover and made it better. This is what people do. I have heard tons of times from other established writers that if they gave everyone in the room the same idea, some of the scripts would be brilliant and some of them wouldn't. That is just the way it is.
Mark Zuckerberg already had been innovated enough to do the Facemash site, and tons of other shit-seriously read up on him...and he knew about MySpace and Friendster, so it isn't actually like the idea for 'The Facebook' was new anyhow.
I don't know the truth, only Mark does. I don't know him, and I don't really care what happened. At the end of the day I respect him, and I believe that he will be studied for years to come in business schools around the world. I love Facebook and it has changed my life in many ways, so am I happy that he did what he did? Absolutely!!
I don't think he is evil and I don't think Sorkin was saying he was in the film. I am not sure if people are seeing the same film as I did. I think it was just what happened and the rest is up to interpretation.
As far as the film, The Social Network goes. It is a great film, but there is this: "The film is based on Ben Mezrich's book "Accidental Billionaires," which Facebook founder, CEO and lead character of the film Mark Zuckerberg openly opposes as an untrue retelling of the company's origin. "
(Quote from this story~ http://www.indianastatesman.com/a-e/student-critic-likes-the-social-network-1.1667208)
Of course this was going to be the case, but when you are like the second richest man in America, does it really matter?
Thursday, September 30, 2010
I took this photo a couple weeks ago when I was in San Francisco. As some of you know, I am fascinated by this bridge and it's, sad & tragic, history. I wrote a novel last year about a girl driving from Los Angeles to San Francisco to jump off the bridge, but she meets someone who talks her out of it, they fall in love, but turns out, he is a ghost-he jumped, and thus needed to save her to move on. (Yes looking for an agent and to find it a home). And while up there doing some research I met a gal who was crying at marker 79...well after watching her for a while, I asked her if she was okay~she wasn't~less than 30 minutes later she was gone. I had turned around for a second and she jumped. I did call the police, but they didn't get there in time-in any case~ I hope to bring awareness to people about suicide and how it is a very serious and tragic solution to a temporary problem.
That said, after the almost year of obsession with the Golden Gate Bridge, I learned about the most moronic idea on the planet that will cost Californians 5 million dollars. A net.
Yes a net. A net. I have to keep repeating it because it is beyond stupid.
Why? You ask? Well besides the high winds, cost, ugliness of it and daredevil attraction that it will bring and actually have more people jumping-it will NOT work.
Unless they put the whole bridge into a bubble-it won't work. This is simple physics people. Given wind-and it is always windy up there, and fog, and trajectory, someone could easily miss the net. A net will also give people a false sense of "if I change my mind, the net will catch me". It will still be far enough up that after hitting the net someone could just jump from there, or get hurt in there. Stupid! Stupid!Stupid!
So I sent a letter-a couple actually- to the folks in charge of the "suicide barrier" suggesting that the best was to deter people is to just extend the fencing by about ten feet, and not even with the super strong heavy fencing. Just enough so it won't blow down, or be easily pushed through and not so strong that people can climb up it.
If I was upset and thinking about doing it, and then got up there and had to climb...it would deter me.
At the end of the day, people who are going to commit suicide are going to do it, but so many suicides are just gut reactions to situations and could be prevented.
I got an email from them today and they said while it was a good idea, the suicide net is moving forward!
How stupid.. and really? 5 million dollars? A fence wouldn't cost even half of that.
I chose this picture because I think it depicts the sadness of the bridge and the many many souls that have lost their lives there. More than the Titanic and that is just the ones we know about. The numbers could very well be more than double that making it the worst American tragedy since the Civil War.
I'm just sayin'.....fence, not net. Fence.
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
I hope you find it as interesting as I did.
Mentors Pay It Forward
By Anne Cheevers
General Manager, 6FigureJobs
Last week I talked about why it’s important to have one (or three!), the wonderful people who agreed to be mine, and what we all got out of it. Today, I want to focus on why you should become one.
When you become a mentor, you agree to offer that person advice, access and advocacy.
Whether you are mentoring a college student or a professional whose career path is shorter than yours, your experience gives you invaluable perspective that your mentee can use to help them avoid pitfalls and missteps and to supercharge their careers.
I have several people that I mentor. Here are a couple of examples:
The first is someone I worked with 20 years ago that was an AP clerk in the accounting department. He was a very bright, very analytical guy who wanted to “make a lot of money” but didn’t want to put in the time to get his CPA.
My advice? Given his analytical bent, marketing was the career path he should consider.
Access? I helped him transition into the marketing department at my company.
Advocacy? Throughout his career I have helped prospective hiring managers understand his strengths. Today he is a lead marketer for a major advertising agency…making a lot of money.
Another mentee is a former vendor. She worked at a major printing house I used, she was an incredibly smart estimator (meaning she got me great pricing) and we had a great working relationship. At one of our meetings she shared her frustration with me that she felt like she had been dead-ended and that her opportunities at her current company were limited.
My advice? Move to the client side where “purchasing” is less narrowly defined.
Access? I worked with her to identify target companies, and segments, where opportunities might exist.
Advocacy? I’ve helped her get recognition and face time with those companies. We’ve worked together as she has transitioned from “ink on paper”, to online media and today, she is one of the top buyers for a major telecom company.
So what did I get out of all this? I feel a sense of accomplishment, and pride, in seeing the success that my mentees have achieved. Could they have done it without my mentoring? You bet. Could they have achieved their high level of success without having a mentor? I doubt it – at least not as quickly.
As my mentors have done for me, I feel a responsibility to do the same for others. That’s what my mentors have taught me – ask, learn, give back.
Please share your experiences on being a mentor at the 6FigureJobs Blog and pay it forward!
Sunday, September 26, 2010
Old Irish women think that tea is the answer to every problem and it is usually true. If you are raging about something and you sit down, relax and have some tea you will feel better. If you are in from a rain storm; wet and cold, and you have some tea, you will feel better. If your heart is broken and you can't stop crying, the warm friendly tea will lift your spirits.
So when you say "This sucks!" or "I am so upset about this!" and it is met with the Irish, "You'll have a cup of tea. Go on, you will, you will." Trust me, you will be happy.
Funny enough it is the same in the States, people are saying tea is the answer to everything. Herbal tea, Green tea, Irish tea, just tea! Not to be confused with the infamous "tea party" that is a whole different kettle of fish, that one.
For example, yesterday all day, I felt sick to my tummy. I had no idea why and no matter what I did if wouldn't go away. Finally around midnight I Googled "Home remedies for upset stomach" and came up with TEA! Herbal tea with ginger, or straight ginger tea. I remembered that I have some "Stomach Ease" tea, and it does NOT taste good. Actually it is so rank, that I thought it would force on to throw up and thus feel better. Last night I made some and added a heafty tablespoon of ginger-which made it taste even worse,BUT, but I felt better with in 5 minutes. I could have saved myself feeling sick all day had I thought to Google earlier.
So the next time someone says, "have some tea." Have it. Whatever the problem is, the tea will help ya!
~Green tea is also on the 14 Superfoods list for optimal health~
Thursday, September 23, 2010
I read this article today because I have been completely under the spell of this song for the last 6 or so weeks. I never, well rarely listen to lyrics, not that they aren't important, but I admit that I listen to music based on my initial gut feeling when I hear it. I love the music, the melody, the riffs, whatever you want to call it, that is what draws me in. This new song does both and it hits me on a very personal level.I have never been in that kind of relationship, thank God, or whomever for that, but I know it all to well, growing up in a violent household. In fact, I am sure if my mom were still with us, this song would get to her. It is VERY VERY VERY real. My father, who I love dearly, could be a scary sun of a bitch with the drink in him, and so in a way I was lucky to witness domestic violence, and what it could be at an early age. I see the warning signs very quickly.
I was dating a guy a few years back and I loved him, or I thought I did and leaving was the hardest thing I ever did, but he got really drink one night and punched me, then passed out. I remember sitting outside on his porch, well our porch because we lived together at the time and I called my sister crying and asked her if I could slowly send me belongings to her so I could "ease" out of the situation. It took me about 3 weeks, but I got away and it was hard for many reasons and the biggest one is that you continue to remember all the good reasons you are with someone, so the abuse seems like a one off, but it isn't, and it escalates. That was that and it was over. It hurt, but it was over.
Violent people usually don't mean to hurt anyone, they just can't control their emotions and it is really a sad thing. Look at OJ Simpson? He couldn't handle his rage and what happened? The murder of two people. Classic case of rage. Every case isn't like that, and that is extreme, but if you are being abused, get out. If someone you are with yells at you, calls you names, or starts punching things, even the wall-that is a BIG RED FLAG to get out.
I think this song is pretty amazing, and I commend Eminem for doing it, especially because of his past. Maybe it will make a difference in someone's life.
The power of music, especially popular music is huge. This song hasn't even been out for 2 months and everyone is talking about it, and it all over the radio.
Here is the article from MTV:
Eminem's 'Love The Way You Lie' Warns Of The Cycle Of Abuse
Dating violence expert says clip's 'warning' message is heightened by Eminem's and Rihanna's personal histories.
By Rochell Thomas, with reporting by Adam Murphy
In Eminem's controversial new video "Love the Way You Lie," love and violence intertwine seamlessly. One moment, a couple sleeps in each other's arms, the next, they're violently fighting, tossing bed sheets. Later, they kiss passionately, pressed up against the same wall the man has just punctured with his fist. All the while, Rihanna croons the chorus which includes the line, "That's all right because I like the way it hurts." But is it really all right?
Less than 24 hours after MTV debuted the video for Eminem's chart-topping single about the evolution of his relationship with his ex-wife, Kim, many are wondering: Does "Love the Way You Lie" glamorize domestic violence?
"The most important thing the video is doing is raising the topic of dating violence among young people," Stephanie Nilva, executive director of sexual assault and trauma resource center Day One, told MTV News.
An expert in relationship violence and domestic abuse prevention, Nilva praised the clip for accurately depicting a pattern typical of abusive relationships. The video stars actors Dominic Monaghan and Megan Fox as a couple involved in a relationship that starts out passionately and lovingly but quickly devolves into a violent affair.
Nilva said the video is especially potent because of Eminem's and Rihanna's personal histories with violence or abuse. "Eminem's history is ...as someone who sings a lot about violence," she said. "And Rihanna's experience [is] as someone who was abused by Chris Brown."
That history, she added, is what will make people look at the video and see "that the message is not 'Don't you want a relationship like mine?' The message is a warning sign."
During the four-minute span of "Love the Way You Lie," Rihanna alternately sneers in the frame and seems to physically diminish before finally crumbling to the ground in front of the burning house that serves as her backdrop throughout. The images may be melodramatic but symbolically, they are accurate, according to Nilva. "Someone who is victimized in a relationship does become smaller, does lose their power and their strength."
"I think we tried as hard as we could to not glorify the violence, to try and explain that this was a relationship that is by no means ideal and a relationship that probably should have ended a lot sooner than it did," Monaghan told MTV News recently. "The concept of 'Love the Way You Lie' was essentially a look at the relationship that Eminem was in with his wife, Kim, so I kind of felt like I was playing Eminem a little bit, and Megan Fox was kind of playing Kim.
"It's the story of them getting to know each other, and it's the story of their tumultuous relationship, and it was the story of the breakdown of their relationship," he continued. "Ultimately, what I think he's trying to say in the song ... is that he should have walked away a little bit quicker than he did and not let it get as messy as it did."
To learn more about how you can prevent or get help for dating abuse and domestic violence, visit DayOneNY.org. If you are involved in an abusive relationship and would like help you can also call 1-800-214-4150. Love should not hurt.
Do you think the "Love the Way You Lie" video conveys its anti-abuse message? Share your thoughts with us in the comments.
This woman has really lived and enjoyed life, raised a family and she is still going strong. She is in her 70s, originally from the middle east, Muslim, and a wonderful spirit. It was so fascinating talking to her about her experiences in the world and in that 30 or 40 minutes that we spoke, we made a connection of sorts. She opened up to me about some sad moments in her life and we just had a great talk.
It is a amazing to me how you live your life and then suddenly you meet someone you never knew and a whole new world opens up.
I feel truly blessed that I met her today and had a talk, all because of a Westie :0)
Thursday, September 16, 2010
After a lot of tears, and trying to talk things out, I am at the end of it. I just can't keep trying to figure things out and fix things that can't be fixed, so tonight I am going out with the girls to have a super night out in San Francisco. I can't wait and it could not have come at a better time!
I hope you are all having a fabulous week, day, month, whatever!!
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Why Is There A Spider On My Head? How to keep your day job and NEVER make it in the "industry".
and I have a scene to finish for my day job-but mine is in the industry so it is okay!
Right now I am hungry, but wanted to check in with everyone.. Hope you are all having a fabulous day where ever you are!!!
Friday, September 10, 2010
I am there in line, behind a woman ordering what must have been the biggest sandwich I had ever seen in my life when a huge man~I'm talking huge! Really fat, big man-sorry not being rude, it is just the way to describe him-comes in from the other side and starts demanding the lady making the other lady's lunch give him 'free samples'.
How would I even get close to explaining his personality to you folks? I am not sure. He was beyond normal rude, even for a New Yorker-not that he was one-but you know what I mean, that busy, rushed New York way of bossing people around. He was more like....hrm? Oh, oh I got it. Did you ever see the film, "That Thing You Do"? Well in that film there is a music producer that the lead singer Jimmy goes up to and tries to promote the band and when he does this, the producer fella spits out food as he screams at him. This guy in Vons, was like that.
He was a character played by Chris Farley on SNL, and I kept checking to see if Punk'd had been reinstated and Ashton Kutcher was there with his crew.
So this man decided he was more important than me or anyone else and after he got his free food-and more than I normally eat in a day-again, not trying to be bad, but it is the truth-he ordered a sandwich with all sorts of extra stuff on it. It was actually making me lose my appetite.
Then he took the sandwich after agreeing to pay extra for the extra stuff, and went on his merry way.
Apparently this man comes in every day and does the same thing and then goes into the men's room and eats it there! So I-super sleuth that I am-followed him to the loo and sure enough he went in with a sandwich and came out without one.
Unbelievable what people will do! I said to the nice lady working behind the counter, "well maybe he needs the money" trying to have compassion for him. He drove away in a brand new Mercedes! What a jerk!
You know if I ever did something like that, which I wouldn't, I was an actress I can go days without food, but if I did, I would certainly be nice to people and not make a scene!
Ain't nobody go no class anymore? I'm just sayin'!
Monday, September 6, 2010
1. The Golden Gate Bridge
2. The Bay Bridge
3. Pacific Heights
4. The stairs on the steep streets
5. Market Street
6. Union Square
7. Union Street
8. The Millenium restaurant
9. The Embarcadero
10. The laidbackness (not sure if that is a word)
11. Crissy Field
12. North Beach
13. The Marina/Cow Hollow
14. Macy's (the big one in Union Square)
15. The weather
16. The fog!
17. San Mateo
18. The architecture
19. The vibe
20. The Redwoods/Marin County/Sausalito
There are so many things I love about San Francisco that it is hard to chose just a few! :0)
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Phoebe on the show 'Friends' didn't eat meat "because it's murder, cold blooded murder" as she put it. I don't know about that, but part of me does agree. I am conflicted!
In any case, so starts my attempt to go vegan. I have switched completely back to vegetarian, with the occasional fish. I was out to dinner about a month ago with a vegetarian friend and when I asked her if she ate fish she replied, "no food with a face.", which is also very Phoebe.
Then I was watching 'Master Chef' the other night and one of the chefs started crying because they had to kill a crab and the guilt set in for the crab cake I had just eaten for lunch!
Without all the animals rights issues, the bottom line is I feel better on a plant food diet. I don't know if I can give up all animal products, like butter and other dairy. I don't drink milk anymore, but do like it in my coffee, lattes and cappuccinos. I use powered creamer at home for coffee-and weirdly enough, I like that tasted better, but at Starbucks and places like that, I do consume dairy. As well I do love eggs, and cheese. I can live without a lot of cheese, but the occasional cheese is okay.
Making the transition to vegetarian is quite easy, but to vegan I am not sure. My new plan is to eat vegan 4 out of 7 days a week and see how I do. I have read a lot of books about how to stay healthy while doing this and even subscribe to vegetarian magazine, so we will see what happens.
Wish me luck!!
I have already lost 12 lbs in 3 weeks, without even trying.
Friday, September 3, 2010
Okay, maybe I shouldn't be taking advice from Rebecca Bloomwood-a fictional character who just happens to have my love for shopping-well not so much shopping as buying.
I hate to shop, but I love to buy. I love to get new shoes, new accessories and new pretty things!
Check out my latest!!
And it isn't my fault-if God, or whomever the powers that be are, didn't want me to spend, He/they wouldn't make it so darn easy to get credit.
Technically, I could be dead before these charges even hit my card. The 'big one', world war three, a 747 could crash into my building, etc.. so really, why deny myself something pretty-okay two pretty things-when my life could be over and any given second? Honestly
It isn't like I really had a choice in the matter. These two dresses were practically calling my name. I will look so fabulous in them, it will be 'sick' as they say these days. Can't you just see me shopping in downtown San Francisco on a sunny fall afternoon in the ruffled one? Or perhaps hanging out at a trendy coffee house, or cupcake shop, or vegan cafe, in the Marina or Cow Hollow? Not to mention either of these anywhere in L.A. Like the Grove! One must looks one's best when at the Grove.
I am just sayin'....magic cards!
Thursday, September 2, 2010
On nasty hot days like today, (currently 95/feels like 102), this is what I think about. Walking, running, biking across on a summer day when the ice cold breeze kisses your face and your body is wrapped in moist air and you can see your breath! Oh I need a 'summer' home in San Francisco. ;p
Golden Gate Bridge June 2009 ~ photo by me!
Okay, I'll admit it, the day this was taken, it was FREEEEEZING. The breeze didn't feel like kisses, it felt like knives stabbing me and I was physically in pain up there. I never ran so fast...followed by a hot cocoa at the Warming Hut-weird for June-but I'll take it any day over this miserable heat!
Monday, August 30, 2010
OMG~ NO WAY! I was joking last week when I said the following: Who is next, the Situation?
You have got to be friggen' kidding me? I must have some serious powers in the universe.
*******Okay from now on I am going to repeat the following : Ryan Murphy is hiring me to write on Glee. I am working on Glee. I am the next staff writer for Glee. I am winning an Emmy for my episode of Glee. It would really be awesome if you could all join in! Just say it once a day or so.*********
I apologize to the universe if I somehow made this happen, and I apologize to the dancers. I am not sure what will be worse, Bristol or the "Situation".UGH
A would-be saboteur arrested today at the Large Hadron Collider in Switzerland made the bizarre claim that he was from the future. Eloi Cole, a strangely dressed young man, said that he had travelled back in time to prevent the LHC from destroying the world.
Friday, August 27, 2010
I don't understand this type of behavior. I really don't.
Also the ones that if they work like 30 seconds past their normal leave time-you would think they pulled an 80 hour work week the way they moan and whine.
These same folks are the ones who leave work early, take a long weekend every other week, and generally use any excuse in the book not to work.
It must be really sad to hate your job and your life so much.
I am just sayin'
Thursday, August 26, 2010
1. The buildings
2. The people
3. The amount of people
4. Riverside Drive
5. The Upper West Side
6. Columbus Circle
7. Central Park West
8. Central Park South
9. 5th Aveneue
10. The Plaza
11. The Walforf
12. The Met
13. The Mets
14. 52nd Street
16. The Imperial Theater
17. The Upper East Side Shops
18. Huge Department Stores
19. Sample Sales
20. The Pizza
21. The Pretzels
22. The Empire State Building
23. Grand Central
24. The Natural History Museum
25. Dean & Deluca
26. Madison Square Garden
27. The Weather
28. The Christmas Tree
29. The Macy's Day Parade
30. The Tony Awards
31. The Buzz & Busy Feeling
32. Off Broadway
33. The Accents
34. The Brooklyn Bridge
35. Walking Down A Street in the Fall
Okay, so I got to 35 without even thinking, whereas for L.A. I had to really think about the top 20 or so....and trust me, there are a lot more reasons I love New York!
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Okay, so if you are on my Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, or know me in real life, you know I am not a huge fan of the hot weather, and I live in Los Angeles-or the Valley actually-it is hot hot hot, and what is worse, the SMOG! That said, I do love this city and here are some things I absolutely love: (In no particular order)
1. The Stairs off San Vicente
2. All the Farmer's Markets every Sunday-especially the Hollywood one and Studio City one.
3. Runyon Canyon
4. Century City Mall
5. Beverly Hills
6. Palisades Park
8. The Grove
9. Award Shows
10. Sunset Blvd.
11. Mulholland Drive
12. Manhattan Beach
13. Uncle Bill's
14. The Sports Club L.A.
15. Beverly Glenn
16. Pacific Coast Hwy
19. The Studios
20. The Entertainment Industry
AND we also have: two major league baseball teams, two hockey teams, two basketball teams, Disneyland, Magic Mountain, beaches galore-for every type of person.
I even love the freeways, I love the different burbs-okay the whole place is a big series of burbs, but I like how they are all different. I love Pasadena, Montrose, and all the trees in the hills (when they aren't burning)
So okay, I love L.A.! If it weren't so friggen' hot, it would be perfect!
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Both my novels were reviewed this week (as well as a book giveaway and interview)
Please stop by my other blog(s) and check out my reviews~
Monday, August 16, 2010
I am also sick of people constantly trying to shove tons and tons of vitamins down my throat. I NEVER get sick and by never I mean, NEVER. I haven't been on antibiotics in about 15 years and haven't had a cold since I was working on El Dorado in 1999, which only lasted two days. I have never taken vitamins and this year when I started, actually all my levels were off-because what they don't tell you, is that if you mix them wrong, you can actually deplete stuff out of your body. UGH-what is the point?
My roommate is ALWAYS sick, in fact I have known people with full blown AIDS that get sick less than she does and that is no joke. I have never met someone who literally gets everything under the sun. It is like living with Doc Holiday. Cough cough cough, sneeze sneeze sneeze-always always sick and she takes tons of vitamins, but what she doesn't do, is eat healthy and she drinks soda everyday. I think that people are under the impression, it doesn't matter what you eat as long as you shove down pills all the live long day. I am just sayin' I am 12 years older than her and never sick. I am not trying to be insulting to her in any way, because she is a dear friend to me, but it is just the facts. I am never sick, she always it. I don't take tons of vitamins and she does. I pretty much live on fruits and veggies, and even when I eat meat-I eat it with a salad of veggies. That with exercise helps a lot!
So here I am, official day one of the new me!
Can't wait! Healthier lifestyle, here I come!
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Look at her~ OMG these photos do not do her justice. Her make-up is flawless, her outfits are flawless, her attitude is flawless. I seriously love this character so much! I am inspired to do some drawings (just add it to the gazillion writing projects I have going and work)...I will do it. I LOVE HER!
I have to say-Men are you crazy wanting a skinny bitch when you can have someone like this?
Monday, August 2, 2010
Tonight I had the pleasure of meeting Jennifer Weiner up close and personal, in real life~we were already Facebook and MySpace friends, but you know, that just isn't the same. As one of my fav authors, who actually inspired me to write my first book, told from a very candid and real point of view, it was great to hear her speak. Her voice in her novels is great, but in person she has so much vivacious, fun energy that even a gentleman walking by decided to stay for the whole reading.
This is actually what this blog is about...this man.. who I don't know and will probably never see again has made it into my blog.
Are you curious?
Are you dying to know what happened?
To tell the story properly and to have you understand why I was so happy with him I have to tell a short story about how the Q & A sessions after any writer, (actor, director, producer, plumber, mailman-okay maybe not the last two, but I am just seeing if you are paying attention), usually drives me COMPLETELY INSANE!
It is always the same questions: What is your process? How did you get started? How do I break in? What about this or that, or whatever...really boring people. What is worse than the same stupid questions-yes there is a such thing as a stupid question-is that there is always at least one, if not more, person that does the, what-I-like-to-call-ass kissing-bragging-portion of the question which usually goes something like this.
"OMG, first of all, I have to say that I LOVE you, you are a genius and I just love...(insert show, book, etc here) and I am in the middle of a huge deal right now with my screenplay that I came in 72nd in three contests, and everyone loves it and tells me that I am also a genius".....
Seriously? After all that you ask about process? Hrm? Are you really a writer?
But I digress.
Tonight was THEE BEST QUESTION in the history of questions.
I may not have it exactly as it was said, but what I am about to say is the truth and hilarious.
Jennifer was answering questions and this older man, old 70 or young 80 in coveralls-yes I mean overalls, white hair and all-stuck out like a sore thumb in a room of women, so I give him credit, raised his hand and what he said was this (or something like it)
"I wasn't going to stay more than 5 minutes, but you are so engaging, funny and (some other great compliment here), that I decided to stay."
Jennifer, "Thank you."
and then. . .
"I was wondering if you would ever consider having an inappropriate one night stand with a man old enough to be your father?"
He was sweet, but it was too funny and by far the funniest thing I have heard in a long time.
Friday, July 30, 2010
Okay ladies-it is not 1960 anymore, why are you so desperate to get married? I don't and never will understand this mentality.
(What's wrong with this picture? Do either of them look happy?)
Honestly, what is it about getting married that still has women wanting it with more passion than actually finding someone they actually love?
There are tons of films, 'Bridget Jone's', 'Sex & The City', 'Must Love Dogs' to name a few, that all center females 'desperate' to be married, or re married. Did I miss something and we are back in 1960 and we need a man? It is ridiculous.
There are match making services where woman sign up in hopes of finding that certain someone to get to the alter. UGH.
There is always some woman giving advice on how to keep a man, get a man, marry a man-seriously? Did you not wake up and realize we are living in 2010?
I am not against marriage, or the concept of spending the rest of your life with someone you love, starting a family, etc, but I don't understand where the obsession comes, and yes it has become an obsession.
My clock has never ticked and I have never wanted to settle. By settle I don't mean, not want to settle down, I mean 'settle' for someone I don't love just for a ring.
A few years ago I mentioned to a friend of mine that I had been engaged and she looked at me horrified, "then why aren't you married?" I explained that I never wanted to marry any of these men, but wasn't ready to break up-and before you judge me, men do this all the time, I wasn't hurting them-and she said, "but you could have been married."
Another gal I met in the midwest was so upset for me that I wasn't married that I actually lied to her and said, "look I just don't like talking about it, but I was married and my husband and two kids died in a car accident." (totally lying to show her absurdity) and she said, "Oh thank God, at least you were married!" So to this woman it would be better to have lost my husband and children in a car accident than be single over the age of 30! That is seriously messed up.
I just don't understand it and maybe that is why I am single, but I don't ever want to marry someone I don't love just to be married and no one out there should, ever, especially now. It is 2010, not 1960!
Wake up ladies. Men are great. I love them, but we don't need to be married to define who we are and your desperation is making the rest of us look bad.
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
I just don't see the point in ruining what could otherwise be a fun night. Just sayin'
Thursday, July 22, 2010
"Remember, always give your best. Never get discouraged. Never be petty. Always remember, others may hate you. But those who hate you don't win unless you hate them. And then you destroy yourself." - Nixon
Sunday, July 18, 2010
Pres Romanillos lost his battle with cancer yesterday and today we all mourn the loss of our friend, mentor, and amazing soul that touched the lives of everyone he met.
When I first went to work in Orlando on Mulan, I didn't know that many people, and Pres was one of the first people to make me feel welcome. The day I met him was the day my uncle had killed himself and I literally had only been in the studio one day. I was walking around the hallway in a daze when Pres came up to me like we had been best friends forever, and gave me words of comfort and strength. Then as the summer went on, we hung out during rainstorms on the patio for midday breaks and talked about life, work and he was just always inspiring me to be a better artist and person. He was a supervising animator at the time and I was a nobody, a newbie who had not even completed a year with Disney and only one film, but that didn't matter to him. He saw everyone as equal and treated us that way.
A couple years later I left Disney and went to DreamWorks and Pres was there and once again, he welcomed me with open arms. My first few months there were really hard emotionally and Pres really helped me feel at home, in fact he changed my experience there. He also gave me work on his character for Spirit off and on during El Dorado (which is what I was staffed on) and later on recommended me for character design jobs and pushed me beyond what I thought I could do. He helped me become a better artist.
As well, Pres and his wife rescued many lost animals and helped them find homes. I remember one time sneezing due to a cat allergy and when I went to see where these cats were, Pres' office door was open and he had a box of rescue kitties there. It warmed my heart to see someone so caring.
I think along your path you meet people that may or may not enter into your close circle of friends, and some of them move on without making an impact, but Pres was not that type in my life. We were never BFFs and I hadn't seen him in a long time, but he definitely was one of the best people I ever knew. His kindness and generosity were enormous and I believe he made a difference in the lives of many.
Last year when he was working on Frog, he found me, or I found him on some social networking site, I can't remember, and we talked about meeting for lunch, but we never did. I didn't even know he was sick until this year. He wasn't the type to talk about himself and be a downer like that. He was a believer in 'all things possible' and living every day happy. My heart broke when I heard he was sick and even though I am desperately afraid of needles I rushed over to try to donate platelets because I knew that Pres would have done it for any of us, or anyone. I wasn't able to because my iron and some other levels were too low, so in the end I couldn't help him, but I will definitely do my best to help others in his memory.
The world is a sadder and darker place with the loss of this beautiful spirit.
*Adding to the original post here* Today I have been reading everyone's kind words about Pres, and I think we are all in shock, like it isn't real. We really lost an amazing person. I was working and watching Glee, and when they sang this song it made me think of Pres, because the Pres I remember was always smiling.
I dedicate to you Pres and your journey to the other side.
Smile, though your heart is aching
Smile, even though it’s breaking
When there are clouds in the sky
You’ll get by…
If you smile
With your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just…
Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just…
Smile, though your heart is aching
Smile, even though it’s breaking
When there are clouds in the sky
You’ll get by…
If you smile
Through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile…
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile